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Barbara Spitzer


Barbara Spitzer (nee Fleisig), 84 of Monroe Township, NJ, died peacefully on Tuesday, March 14, 2017. Barbara had lived in Wayne, NJ since 1977 and had retired to Monroe Township, NJ.

Barbara was born in Brooklyn, New York, growing up in the Sheepshead Bay section. Her neighborhood was primarily comprised of Jewish and Italian residents, and the community was vibrant. Barbara subsequently enjoyed a very healthy zest for life. She always loved to have a good time, visiting Atlantic City nearly every other week, with a cocktail in hand, of course! Smiles, laughter, and good memories were a part of every day. Despite being a two-time cancer survivor and recently recovering from a broken back, Barbara simply never slowed down. She had a unique ability to ‘tell it like it is,’ and you always knew where you stood in Barbara’s eyes. Her son fondly recalls the day his mother told him “you’re fat,” and she then turned to his wife and said the same thing! You simply had to love her for her frank demeanor. However, not every waiter she encountered felt the same way. Barbara would often snap her fingers at restaurant wait staff, and it’s rumored that she tossed a dinner roll, with precise aim, at a waiter who wasn’t paying enough attention to her table.

Barbara’s heart was centered on her family. Raising three young boys essentially on her own, Barbara devoted all her time, effort and resources to doing the best she could for them. She worked tirelessly, spending all her savings on her boys, and she was still able to be there for them at all times. She was a “cool” mom in a sort of unconventional way, always willing to try new things, not too strict, yet steadfastly supportive. Becoming a grandmother was all too easy for her; she just continued in her loving and supportive role as she always had. Later in life, she enjoyed spending time with family at the Jersey Shore, boating, and relaxing with her family. Of course, even in her 80’s she didn’t slow down and just last week she was still driving a car and played cards and Mahjong with her friends. She was a wonderful matriarch to her family and will be deeply missed by all who loved her.

Barbara is survived by her three sons; Peter Feldman and his wife Linda of Wayne, Todd Feldman and his wife J.C. of New York City, and Michael Feldman and his wife Patti of Montebello, NY, five grandchildren; Amanda and Alexandria Feldman of Wayne, Jessica Feldman of Brooklyn, and Jared and Monica Feldman of Montebello, NY, and one brother; Robert Fleisig and his wife Carol of New York City. She was predeceased by her husband Abraham Spitzer in 2007.

Friends may visit with the family at the Vander May Wayne Colonial Funeral Home, 567 Ratzer Road, Wayne, on Sunday, March 19, 2017 from 4-7 PM.

Funeral Services will be held at the funeral home, 10 AM on Monday, March 20, 2017, then to Beth El Cemetery in Paramus, NJ.

Donations in Barbara’s memory would be appreciated to the America Cancer Society, NJ Chapter, 20 Mercer Street, Hackensack, NJ 07601,

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Pete & Todd, We are very sorry to hear of your Mom's passing. Please accept our condolences to your entire family. God Bless you all.

Paul & Lori Dring


Dear Todd and family: Our sincerest condolences during this very sad time! You are in our thoughts and prayers! Lou and Marie Borella

Louis and Marie Borella


Dear Todd, Pete, Michael, and family I'm so saddened to hear of your mom's passing. She will always be remembered as such a great lady that was always welcoming the many friends of yours into her home. I only wish I had known about this earlier today, I would have been there to pay my respects. God Bless you all during this difficult time, my heart is with you.

Nancy Schneeloch

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