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Mary Ruddy


Mary Ann Ruddy, age 93 of West Milford, passed away peacefully on Tuesday, June 27, 2017.

Born and raised in the Bronx, NY, she was a resident of Yonkers, West Nyack, NY and later West Milford before convalescing for the last several years in Wayne for much needed care.

Following high school graduation, Mary worked as an executive assistant with Mobil Oil and later with Union Pencil in Mount Vernon, NY.

Mary met her late beloved husband Leon at an American Legion picnic in the Bronx. They started dating but soon after that picnic, Leon was called to service in the war effort as a soldier in the U.S. Army. While Mary was home supporting the troops as a volunteer with the Bronx chapter of the American Women’s Voluntary Services, War Savings Staff, Leon was overseas where he was subsequently shot and wounded in battle. He returned home and soon after, on Sunday, April 6, 1947, Mary and Leon exchanged wedding vows before God, family and friends at St. Raymond’s Church in the Bronx. They honeymooned in Niagara Falls then settled briefly in the Bronx before moving to Yonkers, NY in 1959. While Mary was sincerely grateful that Leon’s injuries were not life-threatening, she used to light-heartedly quip that he went into the Army as a fine-looking strong young man but returned as damaged goods. All kidding aside, they enjoyed a tender and loving marriage for 49 years until Leon’s passing in July, 1996.

Mary’s devotion was always first and foremost to her family and she lovingly and caringly dedicated herself to raising her three dear children and making the Ruddy house a welcome place to call home. First came her two sons, Leon and Dennis, and later came a gift in the form of her baby girl Darlene. The whole family loved her excellent cooking – especially her goulash, noodles and “chopped meat”, and famous macaroni salad and baked beans. Her son-in-law Bill joked that he put on 25 pounds when he married into the family and, in later years, Mary loved teaching her granddaughter Kelly all the tricks of the trade in the kitchen. When her own children were old enough, Mary began dabbling in real estate sales. She even established her own business which she called Foxwood Realty in New City, NY. Being a real estate agent helped Mary earn some extra income but also gave her the flexibility to be present for her family.

Mary never found a romance novel she didn’t like. Her favorite author of all was definitely Danielle Steele and she would read some of Steele’s books numerous times. All activities of leisure centered on family and friends and another favorite pastime was playing cards, especially the game of rummy – an activity you could find her engaged in every week with her girlfriends. With well over 300 movies in her personal collection, she loved movies of almost any theme and variety.

When her family was young, Mary, Leon, and the kids made vacations out of Leon’s annual Army reunions which took place all over the U.S.A. She cherished times spent with family and friends, especially summer gatherings around the pool at her house in West Nyack, NY or at her son Leon’s pool in Wayne. She considered her grandchildren and great-grandchildren to be one of life’s greatest gifts from God and time spent with them was never a chore. She was their loving “Grandma/Mum-Mum” who would drop everything if they were sick and needed care. Her grandson Ryan took advantage of her devotion, often calling her on April Fools Days to exclaim “Mum-Mum, can you come over? I’m so sick today!” She always believed him and he’d have to stop her and say “April Fools Mum-Mum” before she could get in her car to come right over to his house to help. Mary’s son Leon spoiled her with many cruises. She loved the cruises but loved the excuse to be with her grandchildren even more. In the Winter time, Mary and her sister June would often steal away to St. Petersburg, Florida for a couple of months in the warmer climate while husband Leon and daughter Darlene shoveled the snow at home.

Mary’s Catholic faith was very meaningful in her outlook on life. Where ever she lived, she faithfully attended mass, whether at St. Denis Parish in Yonkers, St. Anthony’s Parish in Nanuet, or St. Joseph’s Parish in West Milford. While at St. Joseph’s Parish in West Milford, she loved to tell people that it was the same parish that famous New York Yankee great Derek Jeter’s grandmother attended.

Mary’s strong determined “do it my way” personality served her well in her life. Despite her independent nature, she was always caring and affectionate to all. Traditions her family and friends enjoyed because Mary was there will never be the same without her, but her family give thanks for her life and for her legacy.

Mary was the beloved wife of Leon who passed away in 1996; loving mother of Leon who passed away this past November 2016, Dennis and wife Joanne Ruddy of Butler, and Darlene and husband Bill Boylan of Montville; cherished grandmother of Jennifer, Kristy, Sean, Adam, Lee, Ricky, Ali, Kelly, and Ryan; and dear great-grandmother of Kayla, Christopher Jr., and Jackson. She was also predeceased by her two brothers and two sisters: Ray Walsh, John Walsh, Eileen Drummond, and June Leonard.

Friends may visit with the family at the Vander May Wayne Colonial Funeral Home, 567 Ratzer Road, Wayne, on Thursday, June 29, 2017 from 4-8 PM.

A Funeral Service will be held on Friday, June 30, 2017 beginning 10:00 AM, at the funeral home. Interment will follow at the Frederick Loescher Veterans Memorial Cemetery, Spring Valley, NY.

In lieu of flowers, those planning an expression of sympathy in Mary’s name are asked to consider Dementia Society of America – P.O. Box 600, Doylestown, PA 18901 (, or, in honor of her late son Leon, to the National Pancreatic Cancer Foundation – P.O. Box 1848, Longmont, CO 80502 (

Guest Book


Dear Darlene, Bill & family, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Mary was a great woman! Hold on to all the wonderful, happy memories. They will be with you forever ?? My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time. May Mary rest in peace??????????Xoxoxo Love, Lisa

Lisa Latori


My heart goes out to you and your beautiful family Dar. She was a heck of a woman. That generation of souls is of exceptional quality and perseverance. She was strong and loving and a beautiful woman through and through. May God keep her in his loving care forever and ever. She will be at peace, rest assured. Jim and I are here for you 24/7/365. With all our Love, Felicia and Jim

Felicia Rose


Rest in Peace Aunt Mary. Say hello to my Dad for me. Kathleen

Kathleen Walsh-Gasiorowski


Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Ron and Odette Morales

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