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Lewis V. Benfatti, Sr.

11/3/2017

Lewis “Lou” Vincent Benfatti, Sr., age 75 of Green Pond, passed away peacefully at home with the comfort of family by his side, on Friday, November 3, 2017.

Lou grew up in Paterson as the oldest in a family of 7 children.  He was active at Paterson Central High School as a football, basketball, and baseball player. He was in two school plays with a lead role in Oklahoma.

Lou met the love of his life Judy Scripture during a Palm Sunday service in Totowa when she was 13 and Lou was 14. They were both in the choir where Lou told Judy to read the wrong lines in the hymnal! (This was the beginning of what would become 53 beautiful years together.) Judy followed his sports career from afar, but they went their separate ways until he was in college. Judy eventually went to one of his Montclair wrestling matches. They began dating after that. They were engaged at Mayfair Farms after Lou’s college graduation in June, and married in November. They have enjoyed a loving and devoted marriage of 53 years. Their first home was in Green Pond where they rented for 8 months and then bought a house in Bloomingdale. They moved back to Green Pond in 1971 with three kids, and soon were blessed with 2 more, and have lived there for the past 46 years. They considered Green Pond a special place to live and raise their children and now their grandchildren get to enjoy the special place Green Pond is. 

Lou graduated from Montclair State University in 1964 with a degree in Physical Education and Health and where he also eventually completed his Masters degree in School Administration. He quickly began his teaching career at Jefferson Township and when the head wrestling coach position opened at Wayne Valley High School in Wayne, he moved there to teach both physical education and health. Along with coaching wrestling, he also coached football, track, and field hockey. He taught and coached at Wayne Valley until he retired in 2004.

He was also instrumental in starting a swim team in Green Pond to keep track of his own kids. By now there were five. His oldest child Jill is married to Danny and they have five children, Ally Gunther (Steve), Kristen, Danny Jr., Lindsay, and Connor. Robyn is engaged to Antonio and has three children; Kylie, Skyler, and Harrison. Lou Jr, is married to Jodi and has 4 children, Cole, Drew, Danae, and Gavin. Sheri is married to Rick and has 5 children, Olivia, Sydnee, Trevor, Landon, and Sawyer. His youngest child Dave is married to Vanessa and has 3 children, Gianna, DJ, and Mia. The kids are involved with many sports thanks to his leadership and encouragement. Lou was the loved brother of Vincent Benfatti (Irene) of Naples, FL, Mary Ann Smith (Joe) of Lakewood, Elaine Bisciotti (Bruce) of North Haledon, James Benfatti (Janet), and Lori Dougherty (John) of Bloomfield, and the late Ronald Benfatti. 

Lou, Mr. Ben, Coach Ben, Papa Lou, Pop Pop, and Uncle Lou to most of the people at Green Pond will be lovingly remembered for his encouraging ways, positive attitude, and smile. He had a great sense of humor and was always ready with a funny saying, quip, quote, cliché, or pun. He had a gift for teaching, coaching, and motivating students to be the best they could be. He never shied away from hard work, was always punctual, and never had enough fire wood. This unattainable quest for enough fire wood would give him several injuries to his neck, hand, and leg. He was a get it done person who wanted the task at hand done yesterday. He will also be remembered for liking his food and/or coffee hot, not warm but hot! He was a great house painter, made many wooden outdoor Christmas decorations for his kids, and enjoyed boating. He was a lover of animals, had many dogs over the years, and will be greatly missed by his Golden Retriever named Chloe. He always enjoyed taking the dogs out for a walk, especially if he was in the doghouse himself. Most of all Lou was proud of his grandchildren. He unconditionally loved all of them and was by far the proudest Pop Pop at any of their activities he attended.

Lou was a longtime member of the Green Pond Bible Chapel and had a deep faith in his Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. One of his proudest accomplishments was passing this faith on to his family. He was very active at the Green Pond Bible Chapel with Youth Group, Couples Club, softball, and where since he retired, began the Upward Basketball program. He felt God had a real sense of humor placing him in this role, as this was not one of the sports he had ever coached.

In 1976, Lou and Judy took their first trip to Disney. This actually was the start of what would become an annual family trip that has given them much joy and pleasure. Some of their best memories were made there. Recently there was a family cruise to Bermuda which included 34 immediate family members and Lou’s sister Mary Ann and her family. Another favorite experience has been their annual trips to the Outer Banks with special friends every May.

Friends may visit with the family from 2-5 PM on Saturday, November 11, 2017 at the Green Pond Bible Chapel, 1083 Green Pond Road, Newfoundland, NJ. A Memorial service will follow at 6 pm.

In lieu of flowers, memorial donations to the Green Pond Bible Chapel, P.O. Box 99, Newfoundland, NJ 07435 would be appreciated.  You can also donate online by visiting the church website at www.greenpondbible.org.

Guest Book

11/3/2017

He was Uncle Lou to me and I will never forget him. I was one of the many fortunate Green Pond kids who grew up with Uncle Lou coaching the swim team. He was one of the finest men I have ever known and I know that I am a better person for having known him. I will miss him the next time I am in Green Pond for the 4th of July. His legacy will live on not only in his own wonderful family but in the countless others whose lives he touched. Rest In Peace Uncle Lou.

Michael Wright

11/3/2017

My deepest condolences to the Benfatti family. Lou was one of my favorite GP people! I remember his encouragement to me when I joined the GP swim team some 40+ years ago, so self-conscious and lacking confidence. Lou, very matter of factly, took me in and was a great encouragement to that young me! And he continued to encourage me these very many years. Green Pond has lost a treasure, but I know he is rejoicing in the presence of his Savior. My love to you all!

Mary Lou Smyth

11/3/2017

Mr. Benfatti will be remembered for his incredible belief in God, his love of life and the beautiful memories he has left for his amazing family. May he be at peace in Heaven and always cheering for his grandchildren from the best seat. With our love and prayers to all the Benfatti's, Linda, Ashley & Kristen Bradish

Linda Bradish

11/3/2017

Sorry to hear of Lou's passing. He knew what it was to be a Green Ponder. We are losing the 'old guard'. Sincere condolences.

Susan E. Roche

11/3/2017

Sending many thoughts and prayers to the Benfatti family. I remember when Judy and Lou married and rented that first house on Old Lane across from our number 6 Old Lane. Thinking Lou so handsome and Judy so beautiful. Then along came Jill and all the rest of that Benfatti bunch! Lou was always ready with a smile and hello when ever we would visit Green Pond. RIP He will be greatly missed.

Leslie Ruport Smart

11/3/2017

How sad I was to hear of Lou's passing. The last time I saw him we had a nice conversation capped off by Lou's big smile! He and Judy were our GP neighbors for years, I always got a kick out of their back yard - always full of kids! Lou was a GP original and I know his family and many friends will miss him. My sympathy to all of you. Jane Scherf

Jane Scherf

11/3/2017

The Last Time I Saw Lou He Was With Judy at the Water's Edge on Green Pond Beach with Both of them resting in theirBeach Chairs Side By Side... Next To Each Other with their eyes closed and faces up to the Sun enjoying the Sun Shine on their faces!..I was Walking by them while walking along the water and saw how close they were to be doing the exact same thing at the exact same time...I Will Never Ever Forget The Image I Have In My Mind of The Two of Them Sitting in Their favorite place to Be on This Earth!...Together At Peace And Enjoying Their Summer Day @ The Beach in Green Pond! How Sad That They Are Apart Today November 3, 2017...Judy Will Survive Her Love Is So Strong For Lou...Sincere Sympathy to You and Your Family!..He will Always Be At Your Side!

Victoria and Walter Steinert

11/3/2017

Lou was one of the nicest people we've ever known. He was always so wonderful to us and to our children. We got to really know Lou through Upward, and we all loved him immediately. We loved when he came to our son's wrestling matches all through high school, and seeing him at church was always so nice. He will be missed by so many people whose lives he touched.

Ed and Lynn Galante

11/4/2017

Coach Benfatti, You were a great man and wrestling coach! You were an inspiration to me and I’m sure many others! My prayers and blessings are with your loved ones you left behind!

Ron Roberts

11/4/2017

I am so sorry for your loss. Judy and your family will be in my prayers I am hearbrioken I love Lou we had manny good times I will Treasure the many happy times

Joann Mosley

11/4/2017

Family. That's who Lou was and of course his love for God. Lou you have left me so many family memories,from our trips to Wood Bound during our younger years to Christmas Piniata's with all the little cousins. To volleyball ball competitions on the beach of which 3 times my team came in second. You would say. Hey there is always next year. You were a big part of our family and you will truly be missed. But you are with our Lord and at peace. Till we meet again cuz. God Bless.

Barbara Tanis

11/4/2017

Our hearts are saddened and broken today . Lou was indeed one of a kind. I am having difficulty trying to find the words that can fully express our saddness. But when ever I think of him,Judy and the kids I do have a smile on my face. We laughed a lot and joked a lot both at Wayne Valley and each and every time we were all together . We were more family than friends but sorry to say that distance as away of people loosing touch with one another. You will always be in our hearts. Love you. Audrey and John

Audrey and John Cannon

11/4/2017

Coach Benfatti was one of a kind. He was a great coach and a better man. 30 years after leaving Wayne Valley, I still think of myself as one of his wrestlers. I will always look back and be grateful for the special memories both he and Coach Bishop provided me. I regret that I didn't get another chance to speak with him and I was looking forward to catching up at the Alumni Day later this year. My condolences to the entire Benfatti family.

Dave Ungerleider

11/4/2017

He was always “Coach” to us. But, much more than a coach. He taught us about life, joked with us, and became our friend. He gave me some great advice during an important time in my life. I will never forget you Coach. Rest In Peace.

Bart Johnson

11/4/2017

Coach Benfatti had that great combination of toughness and humor. He was inspirational and his players loved him. RIP Coach .

Larry Lakind

11/4/2017

Heaven has received a wonderful joyful child of God today. We will all miss you greatly but rejoice in knowing one day we will meet again. You served well and loved well. Thanks for beginning you.

Gwen Bauman

11/4/2017

Dearest Judy & family - Tom & I were heartbroken at the news of Lou's passing, but rejoicing that he has gone home to be with our Lord & Savior. We are so very grateful for the opportunity to visit with both of you while we were back in NJ early October. You took us into your care group, you allowed us to volunteer with you at Upward and you loved us unconditionally. We love you like family and wish you all much comfort at this time. We know that Lou was loved by so many, the memories that your family created will live on forever. We pray that you will be comforted by the love, friendship, & support of all of your family and friends. Much love to all of the Benfatti family. Tom & Bonnie Filan (& family)

Bonnie Filan

11/4/2017

Mr. Ben was a big influence during my time at Wayne Valley. I consider myself lucky to have had him as a teacher and thought of him often after graduation.My thoughts & prayers are with his family.

Tracy Crimmins

11/4/2017

We are deeply saddened with this loss... Lou has touched each member of our family in his special endearing ways since we moved to Green Pond 20 years ago. The encouragement our daughter Skylar received from Coach Lou is so special and will stay with her always. We praise God for the wonderful meaningful life Lou lived and the tremendous legacy he leaves behind. Praing for peace and comfort for Judy & the entire Benfatti family at this difficult time.

Bud, Julianne, Auggie, and Skylar Walder

11/4/2017

Coach Lou was always there with words of encouragement and a smile on his face. Over 30 years later, I remember him like it was yesterday. Rest in peace Coach you are home with the Lord.. 1985-1986 Wayne Valley Indians Football Undefeated State Champs. Todd Kohout

Todd Kohout

11/4/2017

Please accept my deepest sympathies on the loss of Lou...we coached Field Hockey together at Wayne Valley..He, the Varsity, me his assistant...what a teriffic year..what a teriffic time..what a teriffic guy..may he rest in peace...

J SchoenGood

11/4/2017

Coach Benfatti was the best. I was a senior on the field hockey team in 1980 at Wayne Valley HS. We were suddenly without a coach and he stepped up to the plate and took in this team of teenage girls and he was awesome. Like a dad to us. He even write us all a letter at graduation inspiring us to greater things. What an awesome man. What a blessing to the school and his family!!

Liz McKay Bonner

11/4/2017

When I heard yesterday that Lou was no longer with us, I was so sad to hear the news; Not sad for Lou, who is in Heaven with his Lord Jesus, but for Judy, his family, and for all those who knew him. I will miss Lou because he was always so kind. He had the nicest way of saying something encouraging, which blessed me when I was around him. I can't stop thinking about the fact that our area has lost a wonderful man who loved Jesus and who showed Jesus's love to others.

Diane Stanley

11/4/2017

Lew was a fabulous guy and one of the kindest, most amiable people I’ve had the pleasure of knowing. My father, Ken Sinofsky, had the great pleasure & privilege of coaching football with Lew. He was always an inspiration to his fellow coaches & more importantly, his players. Lew always attended the coaches parties after each season ended (successfully or not) with his wife and the other coaches and their wives, and ALWAYS had a smile on his face! It was always a pleasure to serve them stuffed clams and crab puffs that Doris made! Though it was so many years ago, I remember it vividly! It was such a wonderful time ! You will be missed dearly! ????

Linda Sinofsky

11/4/2017

Terrific!

JSchoenGood

11/4/2017

I am so sad to hear the news about Mr. Ben. He was an amazing teacher and and even better man. Always happy and full of life. When I was a Senior he let me use his stick shift truck to go by hoagies for our track party. I had no idea how to drive stick and he said “well now’s the time to learn”. So off I went and figured it out! Thanks Mr. Ben for everything! The Benfatti’s are wonderful people and you all have a special place in my heart and my families heart. Condolences to all of you- Lots of Love Russo

Jennifer Ritter

11/4/2017

Our thoughts and prayers are with you Judy, Jill, Robyn, Lou, Sherry, and David and family. Always so sad when a beloved one dies, but so very thankful for hope of seeing one another again with our LORD!

Jack and Dawn

11/4/2017

Coach Benfatti had a huge impact on me, he knew how to bring out the best in people and always made you feel special. The world would be a better place if the were more Coach Benfattis in it. RIP Coach. Steve Pressler

Steve Pressler

11/4/2017

Our deepest sympathy is extended to the entire Benfatti family on the traumatic loss of your pillar of strength—?Pop Benfatti. His contributions to the successes of your family and thousands of students will continue to be an eternal legacy in their lives. God Bless You! John C. and Michelle Smith (Stephen Smith’s parents)

John C. and Michelle Smith

11/4/2017

Our deepest sympathy to all family and friends. We had the pleasure to known him since the early 1970s, Lou was always ready with a smile as well a good and kind man, will fondly remember him.

The Cheval Family

11/4/2017

Coach Benfatti was inspirational to many of us growing up. Along with the life lessons he also had a humorous side to him. Great man! Will never forget you. RIP Coach.

John Davis

11/4/2017

Our hearts are very sad for you...but we are thankful to know Lou is in the presence of his Lord. We are praying for God's peace and comfort for you all

The Seifert Family

11/4/2017

Lou was just a special person that you were fortunate to know and have in your life. I have many great memories when I think of Lou, may he rest in peace.

Jeri Silvestri

11/5/2017

We are thankful to have known Lou as a dear friend. He was a very special man and loved by so many! We will miss his smiling face and upbeat personality. Heavens gain is our loss. We are praying for God's comfort and peace for all his family.

Bill & Dawn Gervens

11/5/2017

You meant the world to us. We were so fortunate you were our best man at our wedding. Our prayers are with all of the Benfatti family.

Lorene and Bob bishop

11/5/2017

So sorry to here of Lou's passing. May the Lord comfort you and give you peace. Love, Kathy and Darryl Brown

Darryl and Kathy Brown

11/5/2017

Prayers and thoughts for the Benfatti family...on the loss of Mr Lou Benfatti Sr.....may he rest in peace

Greg I Crysler. RT teacher PE/ Health

11/5/2017

Judy ,Jill, Robyn ,Lou , Sherry & David I just wanted to let you know that I am thinking of you all at this very difficult time. He will be missed . I will never forget learning how to swim . Lou was my teacher.

Pam Jacobs

11/5/2017

Coach Benfatti was a wonderful coach and a terrific human being. As a member of the 1975-78 Valley track teams we always found his humor and joy in life infectious. Coach DeVries, Coach Demerest and Coach Benfatti made quite a great trio! People to look up to! Lou, you will be missed by all! My condolences to your family.

Chuck McKay

11/5/2017

Our thoughts and prayers are with the Benfatti Family in this time of sadness. We did not know Lewis personally; however, Mary Ann his sister and I work together for a long time. We feel like we know the family and Maryann always spoke highly of her brother Lou and his family. She was a very proud Sister. RIP Lewis. God Speed. Love the Freda Family.

Linda and Joe Freda

11/6/2017

Our sincere sympathy and prayers. My Mother, Georgeann (Mignone), has fond memories of her cousin, Lou. With Love and Blessings, The Lyons Family Georgeann,Jim and Maureen

Maureen Lyons

11/6/2017

I frequently spoke with Lew when I ran the Rockaway Rockets. Gave me great advice for my son. Very sincere and genuine person. He will be missed. Joe Jackson

Joe Jackson

11/6/2017

Lew's life exemplified a man who loved kids. His own!!! And all the kids in the community as well. "Upward" had Lew as an ambassador of Christ in our local church. GPBC benefitted from Lew's servant leadership in Upward as well as the community. May Lew's life be known as one who pointed people, and kids "Upward" to Christ as LORD and Savior. And may Lew's life be one that demonstrated to all of us not only Ephesian 2:8 and 9 For you are saved by grace through faith, and this is not from yourselves; it is God's gift - not from works, so that no one can boast. But also Ephesians 2:10 For we are God's workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do. If I might add one other incredible memory. GPBC "C" team won a championship game 2-1 against Jacksonville with Lew Benfatti on the mound and he gave all the credit to the team behind him. Just another example of leadership and humility in action along with very hard work. May God be praised. Debbie and I and my entire family love Lew Benfatti and your family.

John Lisa

11/6/2017

My deepest condolences to the Benfatti family. Lou was a neighbor, Coach and Mentor to a lot of us in Green Pond. I remember the many swim team practices with him as our coach. My thoughts and prayers are with all of Lou’s friends and family.

Bob Seeley

11/7/2017

I am so sorry Judy to hear of your dear husband's passing. I lost Ken 4 years ago and although the Lord has been so faithful to me I do miss him still. But as I said, God is Faithful and He alone can heal you. It will take much time. Know I will be praying for you. Remembering the wonderful Bible Studies we all had together.

Karen Watson

11/7/2017

On behalf of my sons, Ishmael Joaquin Edward and Adrian, we want to thank this great coach for hard word and love shown to all of us at Upward. May your family find comfort for all the years together in unity and love.u

Rosa Joaquin

11/10/2017

Very sorry to hear - he was my wrestling coach at Wayne Valley in 1983. I learned quite a bit from him, he was hard and fair. Lessons I took with me into the military. Will remember his strength of character and tenacity. Condolences to the family and deep thanks to Lou for life lessons you are only able to value upon reflection. Thanks for the inspiration.HOSP

Scott Kormis

11/10/2017

My heart goes out to you and your family. I have so many good memories of the families and kids on Pleasant Lane, especially of having the privilege of teaching two of your kids. Know that I am praying for all of you and thankful we will meet Lou again in glory.

Marilyn Rozema


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