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Robert A. Ricker, Jr.

11/4/2017


Robert A. Ricker, Jr., age 57, of Wayne, passed away unexpectedly on Saturday, November 4, 2017.

Bob was born in Annapolis, Maryland to Dorothy and Robert A. Ricker, Sr. His family moved to Atlanta, Georgia, then to Valdosta, Georgia in 1965 where Bob was raised. He attended Lowndes Junior and Senior High School in Valdosta where he participated in many competitions, festivals and concerts. Because Bob was exceptionally tall, he was often asked why he didn’t play basketball. His typical response was “Because the cheerleaders are all on the band bus.” He graduated high school with the Class of 1978 and, after one year at the University of Maine, Bob quickly concluded that the weather was too cold. He shifted gears and, in 1982, he joined the U.S. Marine Corps. After reporting for boot camp in San Diego Bob was sent to the Armed Forces School of Music in Virginia and soon-after he became a member of the Marine Corps Band where he was stationed in New Orleans. An extremely talented musician, Bob played saxophone, tuba, and string bass. While touring with the band, he was honored to play bass with famous American clarinetist Pete Fountain at a performance at Mt. Rushmore. There he also received a standing ovation for singing Lee Greenwood’s famous song “Proud to be an American.” Bob loved to tell stories about flying to concert locations in a C-130 plane and, for his service to his country, he was honored with two letters of appreciation, a certificate of appreciation, the Good Conduct Medal, and a Meritorious Unit Commendation.

After being honorably discharged from the Marines in 1985, Bob remained in his beloved New Orleans where he attended and graduated from Tulane University with a Bachelor of Arts degree in May, 1993. Bob supported himself by doing what he did so well – playing his guitar and singing along and telling jokes. He was so good at it, he was even billed “The Funniest White Boy on Bourbon Street.” Later Bob became part of The Bob and Dick Show along with his funny-man counterpart Dick Hughs. They kept everyone laughing in the French Quarter until 1995 when Bob was ready for a new adventure. He spent the next eighteen months in St. Thomas and, in the fall of 1997 he moved to New York City where he worked as an optician for Gruen Optica in Manhattan and East Hampton, NY. There he made many friends including Lynn Brescia in 1998. They fell in love and were married on June 6, 1999 settling in the Pines Lake area of Wayne, NJ and Amagansett, NY. Bob received his New Jersey real estate license in 2000 and greatly enjoyed working for Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage in the Wyckoff/Franklin Lakes Regional Office alongside his wife Lynn Brescia as her online marketing expert and photographer.

Bob possessed a tremendously active spirit. He enjoyed long cross-country motorcycle trips, including a ride to Alaska where he met his brother-in-law for a continued trip together to the Arctic Circle. There were also the annual trips to Mardi Gras to catch up with old friends, and frequent trips to Broadway where he always liked to sit in one of the first three rows to see the Christmas Show at Radio City Music Hall where he loved the Rockettes and swears that one of them winked at him. The tickets for this year were already purchased. Bob also loved to sail so he spent lots of hours on his Hobie Cat sailing around Gardiners Island and last year taking a sail with his good buddy Aaron Romaine around the Statue of Liberty from Atlantic Highlands, NJ. Around Thanksgiving you could always find Bob frying lots of turkeys for his family but also many for his friends. You could be sure that his precious “Pumpkins” – his beloved Shih Tzu’s Pearl, Bruno, Bubba and Lulu would be by his side angling for a piece of that delicious turkey.

Bob will be greatly missed by all his Pines Lake friends who he would see while walking the lake, always greeting everyone with a huge smile and a warm hello.

Bob was the beloved husband of Lynn Brescia of Wayne, with whom he shared nineteen years of divine happiness and laughs, and her daughter Noelle Brescia, who he affectionately called Boo Boo, of Pompton Plains, NJ; loving son of Dorothy and Robert Ricker, Sr. of Clermont, Florida; dear brother of Michael Ricker and wife Christine and their daughters Ryeigh and Aly of Mount Dora, Florida, and Terri Martin of Winter Garden, Florida; loving nephew of Audrey Warren and Lucille Dickerson, both of Maryland; loving uncle of Megan Brashears of NYC, Michele Townsend and partner Kenneth Webb and their daughter Serenity of Anniston, Alabama, Crystal Shaw of Colorado Springs CO, Rachel and husband Danny Lauretta of Wayne, NJ, and Bjorn Holmgren and wife Sunshine of Wantage, NJ; dear son-in-law of Brooks Scholz of Wayne, NJ; dear brother-in-law of Mary Holmgren of Wayne, NJ, and Claire Shaw and husband Ike of Florissant, Colorado; and dear friend to many in Long Island, NY and friends in Georgia who just visited in late October.

A light has gone out but, because you touched so many people while you were here, we will pay it forward. You will be in our hearts forever.

Friends may gather with the family for Memorial Visitation at the Vander May Wayne Colonial Funeral Home, 567 Ratzer Road, Wayne, NJ on Thursday November 9, 2017 from 6-8 PM and on Friday, November 10, 2017 from 2-4 and 7-9 PM.

A Memorial Mass will take place at St. Mary’s R.C. Church, 17 Pompton Ave, Pompton Lakes, NJ, on Saturday, November 11, 2017, beginning at 11:00 AM. Please meet directly at the church.

In lieu of flowers, those planning an expression of sympathy in Bob Ricker’s name are asked to consider The Carter Center at One Copenhill, 453 Freedom Parkway, Atlanta, Georgia, 30307 (cartercenter.org), or The SYTA Youth Foundation, Attention Hazel Mejia, 8400 West Park Drive 2nd floor, McLean, Virginia 22102 (sytayouthfoundation.org)

Guest Book

11/6/2017

My hearts thinks about you all day and Ilift you up to our Heavenly Father. May you know His peace, We can not wrap our arms around this. We so much want to be there for you now and in the future.

Lisa an Bob Kauffman

11/6/2017

You were and continue to be an inspiration to the people you met during your journey. Now that the light of life has left you, it remains in all of us who had the privilege in meeting you. You left a little of you in all of us. God bless in your new journey and you will be sorely missed.

Donald Cook

11/6/2017

He was the nicest person when I was in high school. Prayers for his family and friends.

Karen Munoz

11/6/2017

Bob was a wonderful human being. He will be greatly missed by all including me. Thank you for all of your smiles and good wishes. Rest in the sweetest peace my dear friend.

Debra Dzanis

11/6/2017

A truly wonderful man whose smile and voice could light up a whole room. His love for life and his family was so evident. I will always remember Bob fondly. My thought and Prayers are with the family always.

Nicole Mecionis O'Donnell

11/6/2017

Lynn so sorry to hear about Bob's passing. To think we were all in Florida just a few weeks ago.... Our thoughts, prayers and support will be with you and your family during this difficult and challenging period..... God bless....

Bruce Zipf

11/6/2017

We recently spoke as you were driving to Florida and we joked about the rental car. Life can be way too short and we must cherish and share each day so we can help someone else. My condolences, thoughts and prayers go out to your loved ones. It appears our creator has more important things for you to tend to now. You will be deeply missed.

Bernie Schick

11/6/2017

Dear Lynn, My heart breaks to think of your loss. May God hold you in the palm of His hand during this very sad time. My sincere condolences.

Mary Lynn Umland

11/6/2017

my most sincere condolences to the family and friends of Bob. i was lucky enough to have met Bob this past Sept. Bob helped us out at our church with some things. i looked forward to seeing Bob and his larger than life personality each day that he was around us. i feel fortunate for the opportunity i had to get to know Bob.

Angelo Donato Our Lady of Good Counsel Church

11/6/2017

Bob reminded all adults of a forgotten part of life, namely childhood. He was like a child, living in an endlessly precious present and wearing a perfect smile. That plus his world - class sense of humor, lovely voice and accent made him unforgettable from the first sight and sound. Oh Bob, you're being ridiculous now!! Either come back or send replacements asap. And I'm just an acquaintance! My heart goes out to his wife and family members who have enjoyed him for so much longer. Out of this sorrow will come some bright light. Love will find a way! Sarah McHugh

sarah MCHUGH

11/6/2017

Lynn & Noelle, My heart is breaking for you over the loss of Bob. He was a fun loving good man. I hope you can find peace in your heart knowing he is at rest. Jane and Rick Ryan

Jane Trust Ryan

11/6/2017

Lynn and Noelle, The posted tribute to Bob reveals a wonderful full life. May God keep you in his care as you come to terms with this loss. Hear felt prayers to both of you. Judy MacLennan

Judy MacLennan

11/6/2017

You were a great inspiration to me Bob; Although you didn't know me too well, you always had a warm, funny word of encouragement when we spoke. May you rest in blissful peace my friend, Geoffrey Handel

Geoffrey Handel

11/7/2017

Lynn, Having met Bob for just a few minutes a few weeks ago, I could tell from that short time the incredible life, love, warmth and fun he brought to everything around him. I could also see the tremendous love you guys had for one another. I was just blown away by this news and I just want to tell you how incredibly sorry I am from the bottom of my heart. My heart is truly breaking for you and I'm here if you need anything at all. My sincere condolences to you and the family.

Ana Moniz

11/7/2017

Dear Lynn, I am deeply sorry to hear of your great loss. May your beautiful memories of Bob be a source of comfort to you during this most difficult time. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Stefanie Levin

Stefanie Levin

11/7/2017

Lynn So so sorry to hear. My prayers are with you Steve Marcone

Steve Marcone

11/7/2017

Bob loved me unconditionally, how could I not love him back. I know he felt that I mentored him, and I did in photography, but he mentored me in how to feel and see joy in my life, how to look for the light and happiness in everything we think and do and how to give back when we've been given so much. I never knew another soul who could simply grab onto life and enjoy the ride. I know he's on his motorcycle up there buzzing around checking out the scenery. I wish he could send back a pic or two...I shall miss him greatly but he dwells in my heart and mind. He was a great gift to me and I commit to passing it on in his honor and in spite of my great sadness. Barbara

Barbara Macklowe

11/7/2017

With Deepest Sympathy..The girls at the Wayne Township Building Department will truly miss Bob and his sense of humor getting CCO's he was outstanding...So sorry for your loss...

Monica Thalmann-Fraley

11/7/2017

My deepest sympathies to all of Bob’s family, friends, and Marine Corps Brothers. Especially, to his Marine Corps Brothers here in New Orleans. I thank God for allowing us to have Bob in our lives performing professional music and creating so many tears of laughter. Our special Brother is not with us anymore but “our fallen comrade” will not be forgotten.

Felix Romero

11/7/2017

I know no one else who lived the life they wanted and loved every minute of it more than you Bobby - RIP dear cousin

Sherry Cronin

11/7/2017

My deepest condolences to Lynn and the family, Bob was such an amazing man! Bob was a very special person to me and another piece of my heart is gone. Bob always made me smile, always had a listening ear for me. I have to say that I use to look very forward to a CCO inspection if Bob was there he always took my frown and turned it into a smile I will be forever grateful to know this man! R.I.P my friend. I will miss that beautiful smile and Energy! Renee

Renee B Albanese

11/7/2017

My deepest condolences to Lynn and family. I know with certainty I am a better man for having met and gotten to know Bob over the years. He was an true friend in my life when I needed one most and over the years taught me what it truly means to ‘live’. His presence was felt instantly whenever he entered a room and his personality magnified a greater than life persona. He was truly a great man who will be missed by many. Until we meet again....

Roy & Tonya Salley

11/7/2017

My deepest sympathy to Lynn and her family, so sorry for your loss.

Christine Van Reeth

11/7/2017

I don't know if you remember me,Lynn but my mother & your ex mother-in-law, Marilyn Brescia. were best friends. While I was working at my brother-in-law's cigar store in Wyckoff you gave a couple of old pictures of my parents that you had found. That meant a lot to me. I don't know what made me read your husbands obituary but after reading it I felt that I needed to offer you my sincere condolences. I lost my husband of 41 years a year ago, so I know the pain & heartbreak you are feeling. Again my deepest sympathy. Sincerely, Annemarie Gatens Barone

Annemarie Gatens Barone

11/7/2017

To all of Bob's friends and family, we offer our sincere condolences. Deb and Rich

Debra Duffy

11/7/2017

Dear Lynn and family, my deepest sympathy.Your husband Bob was one of the nicest people I ever met while working at the Township of Wayne Building Department! His beautiful smile was always a bright light in our office!!! I wish you Peace.

Michelle Sorce

11/7/2017

My Darling Lynn. Words cannot express my sadness for you. I know you waited a very long time for Bob to come around and then taken so suddenly. All I can say is that he will always and forever be with you in everything you do. I know also that at these times all of this makes no sense but I promise you it will one day. When I lost Roger and Jim three years apart I was devastated and thought why God are you doing this to me. Because he needed Bob to help him protect you down here. We will share more times talking about Bob and laugh and cry at the same time. I love you Lynn and again my heart reaches out to you in so many ways. Susan

susan doughan

11/7/2017

El and I are leaving for Forida Thursday morning so will not be attending the wake but want you know you are in our hearts and prayers. God Bless.

joe afflitto

11/7/2017

Ellen and I want to express our sympathy to Bob’s family .Bob truly was a Bright Light in a dimming world.

Mark Romain

11/7/2017

So sorry to hear of This shocking news of Bob. I've known him since1967 when we went to second grade together And all through high school! Always A comedian and great guy

Lee Arnold

11/7/2017

Bob, you were something special. You will be missed. You brightened every room you entered. Rest in Peace. My sincere condolences.

Mike Renowden

11/7/2017

We met Bob at the Breakwater yacht club Wednesday races with the Ryan's many years ago. He earned the nickname "shrimp Bob" because that was his contribution to the eats on the committee boat. He was such a charming and funny guy. We're honored to have known him. Our condolences to his family. Bob & Debbie

The Donohue's

11/7/2017

Bob I will always remember that the last time I saw you was when we were waiting on line to take a leak at a Dead concert! You will be truly missed!

Gregory Mills

11/8/2017

I am so sorry to hear this news. Will always remember Bob and Frank listening to Elton John @ Lowndes Junior High. Prayers for the family.

Pam Corbitt Green

11/8/2017

Such an amazing soul...full of life and spirit...your truly one of a kind. You will be missed by many. Please watch over Lynn & Noelle. Keep your eye on them..they need you.

Lisa Ann Calandra

11/8/2017

Lynn and Noelle We are so sorry to learn about Bob. I will miss seeing him walk past my home, going around the lake and miss seeing the two of you at church always waving. Never knew all the things he did in this life. You both loved each other very much. I will think of him and you every day when I walk, keeping both in heart and thoughts. He will be missed. God Bless. Sincere Sympathy, Pat and Bob

pat and bob gray

11/8/2017

Bobs warm smile will be missed. My deepest sympathy to Lynn and family. Robyn T.

Robyn

11/8/2017

I have a few memories of Lynn and Bob. One vivid one for me was talking to Lynn in front of a hotel in one of the many cities we visited with Coldwell Banker and she said Bob was arriving by motorcycle! My comment was WOW that's a long trip! And of course at the breakers when Bob was so kind to my husband sharing cigars! Lynn know his spirit will live in thru you. Live each day to the fullest as he did!

Kathy Milinkovich

11/8/2017

So sorry for your loss. Bobby's life was a real tour de force and the joy and laughter he brought to this world will be sorely missed.

Stacey Findley Brown

11/8/2017

A man who will be thought of often by so many for his smile and laugh, his kindness and caring, and his truly beautiful soul.. what more would a man want for his life? And as he arrives in heaven Rick will say “hey, big fella” I can picture it and it gives me such comfort. Nothing could possibly prepare you for this,Lynn, but you can take great comfort that Bobby’s was truly a life well lived, and well loved. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your daughter.

Gaile Stuart Dunn

11/8/2017

Very sorry to hear Lynn! I had a fun time teaching him piano, he always made me laugh..........

John Gatti

11/8/2017

It’s such a cliché but Bob literally lit up a room when he walked into it. I only wish he knew how his joyfulness and his humor helped me through some of my darkest times. Rest in peace “Southern Bob”... you will truly be missed by all who knew you.

Wendy M. Ryan

11/8/2017

You had to like Bob. He made everyone smile, from walking by around the lake, yoga at the pavilion, or anywhere you saw him. And that accent was so endearing. I agree with Sarah “send replacements”!

Kasey And Rob Lai

11/8/2017

Bob- I will never forget how fun and friendly you were ! It was a great day when I would see you walking around the lake! You always had on that big smile and had something fun to say! I will think of you every time I run the lake! I will miss you my friend!

Wendy

11/8/2017

Lyyn, your beautiful tribute to Bob is amazing - The fact that more than 5000 people have visited this page is an awesome tribute to the man, husband, friend........that Bob is to so many. We will all miss him, but I hope to have learned from him, and as you said............will pay it forward in his memory. Much Love, Ellen & Bill and "our pumpkins"

Ellen Lurz

11/8/2017

Lynn - The tribute to Bob truly captures the spirit and "joie de vivre" that Bob lived. Our lives were blessed by knowing Bob and we will all continue to live our lives to the fullest and greet each day with joy, a love of one another and a love of life (as he did). Our hearts are truly aching for Noelle, Bob's family and you, but Bob's spirit will continue to live in all of us and you. With love to all, Hal & Betsy

Hal & Betsy Maxwell

11/8/2017

"Greetings fellow traveler". All is not well. I cannot adequately put into words my fondness for Bob. He was such an important person in my lifetime and a fixture within my family. My wife and son adored their "Uncle Bob". Rest in peace my friend. We love you, the world loves you. You were a "big deal". An incorrigible, caring, gentle giant, and your absence leaves an incredible void that can never be filled. All of our love goes out to your friends and family that feel this loss. Till we meet again .. "Have a Grateful day. Aloha."

Aaron, Angelie, and Dean

11/9/2017

My sincere condolences to Bob's wife and family. May God help you get through your deep loss. Bob's positive and ever-large, ever-smiling presence will be greatly missed, and his life's message of love, hope and joy... everlasting.

Patsy

11/9/2017

Lynn - My deepest condolences to you and the family during this time. Bob was one of the first people I met when we moved to Pines Lake. I will always remember him playing his guitar and singing on the boat. A favorite was "On the boat again, like a band of gypsies..." We passed each other countless times around that lake, he always promised that next time he would run with me. May God help ease your pain and sadness, love to your family.

Beth O'Connor

11/9/2017

Lynn, from the first time I met Bob I knew he was special. I've never quite met anyone like him before and I think it is safe to say I never will again. Not only did he have an incredible sense of humor, he had love for life. Bob and I become close through the years and I will miss him dearly. Janine and I have fond memories of going out on the boat out and Bob playing tunes, keeping us laughing. Bob will live in my heart forever Lynn as I'm sure he will in yours. My sincere condolences, please know you are in my thoughts and prayers.

Mick Reilly

11/9/2017

Hey Bob, heaven can always use another good musician, and don't worry, God loves you and your family just like fried chicken. God Bless.

Mike Byrne

11/10/2017

I only had the pleasure of meeting Bob on two occasions with my friends Ellen and Linda. He selflessly contributed to the Student Youth Travel Association, and brightened the lives of all of us who met him there. His sense of humor, his musical talent and his enthusiasm for life were an inspiration.

Cathleen Johnson

11/10/2017

My deepest condolences to all who loved this incredible man who made us all appreciate what life had to offer! Anyone who met Bob could not help but smile; Today i will smile a little longer , I will sing a little louder ( and hopefully in tune) and I will look for ways to pay it forward as Bob so often did. May God bless his family today and always,

SUZANNE ZADOYKO

11/13/2017

Bobby is held in such high regard by our family because of his the joy he brought to our parents. They first met Bobby through my brother, Larry Wisenbaker. They adored Bobby, from the days of the Southern Comfort band practicing in the workshop, until the end of their lives. Over the years, Bobby stopped by to see them several times a year on his trips to and from Florida. His impromptu visits were such a delight for them—they loved to hear him tell his many funny tales. Many of the happiest photos of our mom in her later years were taken as she grinned at Bobby or he hugged her. He liked to pose her “driving” his shiny red convertible, or have her make a “mean face” standing in front of his motorcycle. He was such a remarkable person—he will be missed and long remembered by our family for the happiness he brought to our parents.

Betty Wisenbaker Barton

11/14/2017

Bob heaven is a much better place with your smile and kind ways and of course your off color jokes which I loved! I looked forward to seeing you and Lynn each year in West Palm. You will be in my memory forever as a true gentleman and wonderful spirit. Thinking of you Lynn, love you your family.

Jenepher Spencer

11/15/2017

There are no words that can smooth over this heartbreak. Our last yoga clas was as usual very un zen with lots of laughs, and groans from all of us. As we walked out of class I stopped in the parking lot to talk. We all laughed and said till next time. Bob got into his red car with the top down and as he was driving away raised his arm and waved goodby.

Carlee Bissell

11/20/2017

I met Bob in 1998 out east in Napeague. He was one of the most memorable people I have ever met. We had (a group of 10+ people) some of the best times of our lives..(hearsay) We sat around the campfire and sang silly songs while Bob and Del played guitar. It was such great fun!…living on the water, boating and doing silly thinks. It was the time when Bob met Lynn and soon married. We gave Bob and Lynn a wedding present…a Hobie Cat…Bob was a great sailor. I only wished I could have sailed with him more. Bob and Lynn are 2 of the finest people I have ever met and now one has passed. The world is not the same. I am sure he is up there playing "The City of New Orleans" better than Willy Nelson ever did! You are missed my friend. Much love, Geralyne

geralyne lewandowski


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